by Danièle Joulin and Deborah Collins
My homeopathic training in the method of Dominique Senn led my study group and me to realise that Syntocinon® has today become almost a standard treatment during birth and even in caesareans and abortions, where it is injected into the uterus.
The significance of oxytocin in my practice was revealed by the usual question: "When did your complaints begin?" When the answer was "from birth" or "since my first week of life", oxytocin often provided an explanation. I have treated many conditions with it, such as postnatal depression (much more severe than the few days' "baby blues"), allergies, joint or back pain, digestive complaints and, of course, everything in the gynaecological area.
My best case was that of a woman who used abortion as contraception and had had fifteen abortions. She had a dental abscess that disappeared within 24 hours after taking Oxytocinum XM.
My view of oxytocin, the hormone of attachment, is that it can also lead to detachment. The fusion in the mother–child relationship can be so strong that there is no room left for the father. He feels rejected by his wife, who has completely lost her libido. I came to call it the "divorce hormone" after seeing many such cases over the past twenty years. The second aspect of this intense mother–child bond concerns digestion: a mother who fears that her child is not drinking enough, or who refuses to eat herself.
Furthermore, I have found that in children who were breastfed exclusively for longer than six months, as in their mothers, an elevated oxytocin level develops, which in turn makes weaning more difficult. It is as if mother and child are in a bubble where the mother is entirely available to the child.
In my practice, oxytocin has helped to untangle this overwhelming and too-demanding bond, but I have always used another remedy afterwards. I have used it as an intermediary, a tool to help find a more flexible bond with the mother, even in adults, long after weaning!
Research on Oxytocin and Male Infidelity
Oxytocin, known as the "cuddle hormone", has, it turns out, a remarkable effect on men who receive it: it seems that they are less inclined to start an extramarital relationship. Oxytocin is particularly known for its role in the mother–child relationship and produces a feeling of happiness similar to that experienced by women with their partner or during orgasm. In men, this hormone creates a strong feeling of emotional attachment that—according to research—prevents infidelity.
Israeli researchers discovered in 2012 a positive association between oxytocin and the success of new partnerships. Blood oxytocin levels proved to be a reliable indicator of the future development of relationships.
Recently, German researchers at the University of Bonn went a step further and discovered that oxytocin not only strengthens emotional bonds between people but also prevents men from engaging in extramarital relationships.
Case: by Deborah Collins
A man in his sixties came for treatment because of an increasingly severe cough, which had become so bad that he feared he would die from it. He had previously been treated homeopathically and had responded well to Staphisagria, although this had no effect on his cough.
The red thread running through his life seems to be his relationship—or rather: the lack of a relationship—with his mother. Although he had worked a great deal therapeutically on this major deficit in his life, his difficult relationship with his mother continued to affect many aspects of his life, especially regarding women. He had been married four times and divorced four times. Each time he believed he had finally found the unconditional love he had always lacked, but when his new partner could not provide this, he began looking elsewhere.
It appears that his mother was not at all prepared for motherhood when she became pregnant with him. She bore heavily the problems of her own childhood, including a harsh mother who could no longer cope financially after her husband left her. She told many different versions of his birth, including a caesarean, although she has no scars. Everything she said only reinforced my patient's feeling that he had been too much for her and was never welcome. In fact, he was so neglected in the first three years of his life that an older neighbour eventually took him in, and he spent most of his youth with her. She became much more of a mother to him than his birth mother.
This "unwelcome" feeling, combined with a tendency not to miss any opportunity for love, pointed to Oxytocinum.
Prescription:
Oxytocinum C 200, later 1M
Follow-up:
The cough diminished almost immediately to about 5% of what it had been. He was able to take long walks again and was no longer afraid that he would die from the cough. More importantly, however, was his relationship with his now deceased mother. "Even thinking of her used to fill me with anger and frustration. I couldn't bear to listen to the music she liked—I would turn the radio off when it came on—but now I listen to it on purpose, and it fills me with warmth."
The mother–child relationship that had been missing during their shared years appeared to heal. It is never too late.
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This article was published on www.interhomeopathy.org
Photos: Fotolia - mutter_kind - © Lena S., Shutterstock - Teenager boy worried sitting on the floor with a hand on the head - © Antonio Guillem,
Category: General
Keywords: postnatal depression, gynaecological problems, detachment, symbiotic mother–child relationship, infidelity, weaning
Remedy: Oxytocinum
