Over-connection and possessive relationships over three generations: a case of Latrodectus mactans
Prescribing over the
In the three cases discussed below, the remedy was the same for all three people. The remedy we are discussing here is Latrodectus mactans, a spider remedy known for helping with cardio-vascular problems, where the symptoms are connected at an emotional level to possessive claiming behaviors within family relationships, so the remedy also helps to solve the connection/disconnection emotional problems.
The mutual situation is one of a child being raised without the presence of a father. The parent leans emotionally on the child, which results in the child carrying the burden of the previous generation, leading to psychological and emotional disorders (1, 2).
Sacrifice and possession
The first to come to the practice was the mother, followed by the grandmother and then the girl. The observations on the great-grandmother came from the grandmother.
Case one: the woman (mentioned
as mother in the diagram)
In the interview, she implies she has a feeling that she cannot go on living if they split up. She is prepared to sacrifice everything for this man. When her boyfriend is not around, she feels utterly abandoned, she feels desperate. She feels trapped in the sense that she sees no further reason for living without this boyfriend.
Previously, she had an intense sexual relationship with a man, but the relationship had the same destructive possessiveness. In another relationship, she could share mundane things with her boyfriend, and it was a less violent relationship, but without any sexual passion or attraction between them.
she has had a difficult relationship with her mother. Her mother was very
manipulative with her, seemingly very loving and caring, but at the same time
drawing attention to herself. The patient says that when she was with her
mother, she felt as if she was drawn into the energy field of her mother. She
broke up the relationship with her mother because it felt like she was
suffocated by her mother’s attention.
Imprisonment to her feelings
The reason she visits the practice is her wish to change her attitude towards her boyfriend, to avoid the extreme fits of anger she gets, and to get rid of the imprisonment to her feelings of abandonment when her boyfriend is not around.
Some years later, she is not with this boyfriend anymore and has a child (girl) whom she is raising without a father (the child is the result of sperm donation of a good friend).
Case two, the grandmother (about 60 years
When she entered the practice, I saw a very nice, quiet woman. The first thing she mentioned is that she feels that her own mother (the great grandmother in the diagram) claimed her completely during her childhood and adolescence.
Carrying the burden
She had insomnia for years, not being able to think about anything else but her mother at night. When she woke up in the middle of the night, she had a terrible headache; her head felt like a balloon, swollen and nearly on the brink of snapping. She felt agitated, with heart palpitations.
Case three: child (3 years old)
During the interview, she complains constantly about abdominal pains and headaches. The abdominal pains are worse in the evening, she can only calm down when she lies down on her belly and she feels the warmth of lying in this way.
Her mother is distraught. She cannot physically keep connected with the child 24 hours a day. Thus, the relationship between mother and daughter is rather stressful.
Symptoms of Latrodectus mactans relevant in these cases are:
Stitching pain in the heart region, extending to the left arm and fingersCramps in abdomenSensation of death or dying, accompanied by utter sadness and despairShrieking, shouting, cryingClaiming behavior towards love ones, manipulative behavior, stalking othersOver connection with loved onesAll feelings are very intense, both physical and emotional.
The absence or the loss of a parent can trigger or enlarge the Latrodectus mactans symptoms.
In the cases discussed here, the main theme is “over-connection”, being unable to escape the over-dependency, and a feeling of sadness and despair, which results in anger when the connection is broken – or even if it just seems to be broken.
This can result in somatic heart problems, palpitations and cramps, radiating to the left side of the body.
An interesting way of analysing the case is by bringing all the symptoms in this family together as one unity. So, we are treating over the generations, treating the miasm in the family and healing the background for deep-seated disease and emotional and psychological problems.
I was only sure of having chosen the right simillimum after I had seen all three of them.
In the case of the mother, I prescribed Latrodectus mactans C 220/5 (dilution of C220 from a trituration to the 5th level) one dose, then a second dose a month later.
After three months, her behavior stabilised, especially towards her boyfriend.
In the case of the grandmother, the remedy was Latrodectus mactans, LM2, for three weeks, a daily dose related to the high blood pressure. After three weeks, the doses were reduced to twice a week. After about half a year, the pains have disappeared and the blood pressure is under control.
In the case of the girl, I gave one dose of Latrodectus mactans C200. The abdominal pains disappeared and her clingy behaviour diminished.
Treatment of three generations with problems and disorders all related within different levels of one remedy picture, resulted in amelioration of the complaints of all three individuals and the restoration of more normal family relationships.
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